Were we made for each other? Do you ever ask that question in your own mind? Do you ever ask your spouse? It’s not only okay to ask the question, its actually pretty normal to ask the question. In the journey of love, there's a perennial quest to discover if two people are truly meant to be. While compatibility is often what we seek, it's the recognition and celebration of our differences that most often defines a couple's bond. So, how can you tell if you're made for each other, when almost every married couple is made up of two people who are so different from each other? Here are five ways to explore:
Embracing Differences: Instead of looking at your spouse as someone who mirrors your every trait, look at your spouse as someone whose differences complement and enhance who you are. Embracing diversity in a marriage fosters growth and learning, as you navigate life's journey together with open minds and hearts.
2. Shared Values and Goals: While differences add depth to your relationship, shared values and goals provide the foundation for lasting harmony. Two different people are able to share the same values and goals. Discuss with your husband or wife what are your core beliefs and aspirations and how those shared principles will sustain you through life's challenges.
3. Communication and Understanding: Each of you have different communication styles. One spouse is typically more extroverted while the other is more introverted. In other words, one spouse likes to talk, and the other doesn’t. That’s the way most couples are shaped. But couples still have to find ways to communicate openly and empathetically. Take note of how you and your partner handle disagreements—are you able to listen to each other's perspectives and find common ground? Effective communication fosters deeper understanding and connection.
4. Mutual Respect and Support: Respect is one of the cornerstones of a healthy loving relationship. Do you and your partner show mutual respect for each other's opinions, feelings, and boundaries. A supportive partner uplifts and encourages you to be the best version of yourself. Do you know in what ways your spouse feels respected? Do you know what love looks like to them? Knowing how to support your spouse with the love and respect they need is a key to growing together.
5. Divine Guidance: Ultimately it is God who made each of us for our spouse. Consider that marriage was ordained by God. In the 19th chapter of the Gospel of Matthew it says “Therefore What God Has Joined Together…” It couldn’t be stated more clearly, if God joined you together, then you must have been made for each other. Reflect on the moments of synchronicity and serendipity in your relationship. Trust in the journey and have faith that you are guided towards each other for a purpose.
The question of whether you're made for each other transcends mere compatibility—it's about embracing our differences in divine harmony. As you assess your marriage, remember that diversity enriches your bond and strengthens your connection. You are different for a reason. By embracing shared values, fostering open communication, and trusting in divine guidance, you can discern if you and your partner are truly meant to be. This is the perfect time to take a moment to reflect on these five aspects of your relationship. Prayerfully you can see that yes, we really are “Made 4 Each Other!”